Tuesday, June 30, 2026
HE WHO WATERS OTHERS WILL HIMSELF BE WATERED
Sunday, June 28, 2026
GIVE AND IT WILL BE GIVEN TO YOU
I have tried to live that Old Testament Proverb (11:25) that
says, “He who waters others will himself be watered.” I was reminded
of it when I saw the first reading and the gospel reading for today. Both
readings teach us about God rewarding people for their generosity. The first
reading tells us about how a woman, who built a little guest room in her house
for the Prophet Elisha to stay in, was blessed with the baby that she had
longed for over the years. In the gospel, Jesus promises a reward for every
good deed, from welcoming a prophet to giving a child a cup of water.
All my life, I have had experiences of having my generous
gestures come back to me a hundred-fold. Let me tell you just one story from my
days down in the home missions of the diocese back when I was a young
priest.
As the first Catholic priest to live in Wayne County, Kentucky,
I was stationed at a mission church down along the Tennessee border. We had a
handful, less than a dozen, of parishioners and money was very tight. In fact,
one of my first jobs was to raise my own salary. Often it was a strain to even
pay the church’s electric bill. I lived in the basement of the church to save
the parish money. One of the ministries we had was a used clothing store for
poor people who needed access to cheap clothing. One day, we got a load of
clothes from the family of a man from Louisville who had died. I was going
through his stuff, trying to organize it, when I came across a box of old
shoes. In the bottom of the box, under the shoes, was a stack of $20 bills that
amounted to about $400.00. I knew in my heart of hearts that the old man had
hidden it there before he died and that the family was not aware of it. I stood
there holding the $400.00, knowing that we could really use it, but also
knowing that the family did not know what they had given us. I finally decided
to send it back to the family who thanked me for my honesty. A few months went
by and then one day a letter came in the mail. The family sent us a $1,000.00
check from his estate because we had been so honest!
That kind of thing happened all the time down there. We
would get down to almost nothing, be generous to someone even needier than we
were, only to see an unplanned donation come in from some unexpected source,
often on the same day! It happened when I was a volunteer missionary in
the Caribbean Missions a couple of years back. It happened during the St.
Theresa Family Life Center and Guest House project
that I just recently finished down in my home parish in Meade County. It
is happening in my mission projects in Africa. In fact, this past Christmas Eve,
I was short a few hundred dollars of my goal to finish the school building I
was working on by Christmas! I went to the mail box that Christmas Eve and opened
a letter that had a check in it that miraculously met our goal. I stood there
amazed because I thought we would be short! It was a very last-minute miracle
for sure!
I first learned this "give-and-receive" dynamic
from my mother. She had very little money, but she was a serious “giver,” from
things out of her vegetable garden to loving compliments and kindly gestures,
which always seem to come back to her in abundance. I have seen that dynamic
play out over and over again in my 56 years as a priest. It has happened so
many times that I was moved to have these words engraved on my new tombstone:
"Simply Amazed - Forever Grateful!" That’s probably where I got
the idea of writing a column every week for fifteen years called An
Encouraging Word. In it, I doubled-down on the spiritual practice of
blessing people, not necessarily with material things, but even more so with
encouragement which cost me nothing to give.
"He who waters will be watered!" I was paid
nothing for my fifteen years of writing those weekly columns, but nothing
brought more blessings into my life than the practice of looking for people to
compliment and encourage and then expressing what I had seen in that column.
The idea was simple. I looked around for goodness to affirm rather than evils
to condemn. Indeed, “He who waters will himself be watered!” Jesus put it
this way, “Give and gifts will be given to you; a good measure, packed
together, shaken down, and overflowing, will be poured into your lap.” (Luke
6:38)
Ever since I have adopted this spiritual practice in a
serious way, I have also noticed in an ever-sharper focused way how many
people, consciously or unconsciously, engage in the mean and ultimately
self-defeating practice of withholding compliments. There may be even more
people who stick their heads out a bit and then pull them back in giving
praise, which may actually be even more cowardly. Henry Ward Beecher nailed it
when he said, “The meanest, most contemptible kind of praise is that which
first speak well of a man and then qualifies it with a “but.” Here is how that
goes! “Your hair looks great, but you need to lose some of
that weight!” "That was a good homily, but it
was much too long!
Why is it so hard for some people to offer a direct, clear
and unconditional compliment? Why does it seem like an “ascetical” practice
that goes against our nature? I guess it goes all the way back to Cain and
Abel. Cain became “resentful and crestfallen” because God looked with favor on
his brother’s offering. This sin is alive and well even in clerical circles.
Father Andrew Greeley once wrote (probably about the withholding he felt from
his fellow priests in Chicago) that “the worst thing a diocesan priest can do
is to get good at something.” I have felt what he was talking about. Several
years into writing my column, I overheard one of my brother priests say loud
enough for me to hear, "Oh, that Knott! He's never had a thought he hasn't
published!"
We have all heard the old saying, “What goes around, comes
around.” Paul expands on that wisdom when he wrote to the Galatians. “A person
will reap only what he sows. Let us not grow tired of doing good, for in due
time we shall reap our harvest, if we do not give up. So then, while we have
the opportunity, let us do good to all, especially to those who belong to the
family of the faith.” (Galatians 6:7-10)
If we need to be loved, need to be appreciated, need to be
noticed or need to be honored, the best way to get it is for us to extend love,
to show appreciation, to pay attention to
others and to honor them. Writing that column, looking for
opportunities to bless others, brought me more blessings than I could ever have
imagined. Hardly a day went by that I did not get a note, an email, a call or a
greeting of appreciation in public places by people I had never met. I still
receive encouraging words from people who remember it, even though I quit
writing that column nine years ago!
For me, writing that column was a spiritual practice. I
still try to carry on that practice of blessing people in various other ways.
By watering others, I have certainly been watered! I have
learned the truth that if you give to others what you need, it
comes back to you multiplied! I know that those of you
listening to me today know exactly what I mean. You have been generous and you
know your generosity always comes back to you! By watering others, you have
been watered! My only prayer at this time is that God has abundantly
rewarded all those people who have reached out to help us personally over the
years --- and there have been many! They have our deepest gratitude and my
prayer is that God has rewarded them a thousand times over for their generosity
to us!
Saturday, June 27, 2026
Thursday, June 25, 2026
I CAN'T HELP IT! MY ANCESTORS CAME FROM ENGLAND!
I ran across this cartoon a few weeks ago. It grabbed my attention because, being a descendant of immigrants from England to Maryland to Kentucky, I enjoy a good "Gin and Tonic" on occasion. That cartoon ultimately gave me an idea for a blog post and a chance to share my history of drinking - or the lack of it!
First of all, we never drank alcohol in our house growing up. My Dad had a bottle of bourbon hidden in a closet to share with a cousin of his who visited from Louisville maybe once or twice a year. My uncle Bob did own a tavern a few miles away. We would stop in quite often, but I can't remember my Dad ever ordering a beer. He liked to "hang out" with neighbors and friends, chat with my uncle and talk about his lumber and building material business.
Don't ask me why, but I asked another local tavern owner, and fellow parishioner, to be my Confirmation sponsor. I just thought both he (Edwin Lee Rhodes) and my uncle (Bob Knott) were wonderful people that I liked and admired!
When I was in my early years of seminary, we could get "kicked out" for having a beer or any alcohol in our possession. After Vatican Council II, a lot of seminary rules changed. One of those changes was being allowed to own our own cars on campus. Another change was being allowed to go to the local taverns in the evenings since we were all over 21 by that time. The thinking was that it would be good for the staff to see how we could handle alcohol before being ordained. The second change was even more dramatic. They begin to worry about us drinking and driving back to the seminary on those country roads. Sometime during the years leading up to ordination, St. Meinrad Seminary was the first college in Indiana to get a liquor license! They opened a pizza pub on campus called "The Unstable" in one of the two gyms. It got it's name for the old barn wood and decorations that came from an old barn that lined its interior walls. A newer version was built when that old gym was torn down. The new "Unstable" is still in existence.
The summer before I was ordained a Deacon, and two summers before I was ordained a priest, I worked in Crater Lake National Park for the United Church of Christ as its first Catholic "student minister" preaching two ecumenical campground services each Sunday. I also served Mass each weekend. My weekday job in the main Lodge, where I lived, was Night Desk Clerk. Because I was one of the few students over 21 working in that National Park, I filled in as a part-time "wine steward" in the dining room and a part-time "bar tender" in the lodge's bar. (I was also the Master of Ceremonies for the Miss Crater Lake Beauty Pageant, but I digress! That is another whole story in itself!)
Even with that history behind me, I don't drink a lot personally. I never have and I never drink alone. I never drink bourbon, scotch, rum, tequila or beer! I never drink bourbon because I got sick on it in college and never got over that bad experience. I used to drink wine when I attended a special dinner, but I seldom do that anymore because wine makes me groggy. When I have a choice of drinks when I go out to dinner, I usually order a gin and tonic "tall" (meaning a little gin and lots of tonic - enough to last through the whole meal).
I am certainly not against drinking any of the above for religious reasons. I just don't really enjoy drinking alcohol all that much. However, I do have most of the drinks mentioned above, including wine, available at my condo for guests who might enjoy a drink with dinner or maybe just when they drop in for pizza or may want a drink out on the deck!
Here's a very short video you might enjoy about the joys of Gin and Tonics for us English men! (Click on arrow and then open "Full Screen" to see bigger image)
Even though I gave up cigars several years ago, I would still rather have a nice cigar than a drink! Cigars are still tempting after all these years!
Tuesday, June 23, 2026
SAVING YOURSELF WHEN EVERYONE ELSE SEEMS TO BE DROWNING
Sunday, June 21, 2026
DON'T BE AFRAID
Matthew 10:26-33
Last week, we heard about Jesus
picking the twelve apostles from among his disciples! This week we hear some of
his instructions to them as he sends them out! We’ve got to give Jesus some credit! After
calling his disciples to follow him, he certainly did not promise any of them a
rose garden! In today’s gospel, part of a longer passage we are reading over
several Sundays, Jesus tells his disciples “not to be afraid,” not once, but
three times! He speaks about “killing the body,” not once, but twice! It is
part of a longer instruction to them before he sends them out to preach and to
heal!
I don’t know about you, but if I had
been there, I would have smelled a rat, big time! Who needs to get involved in
that kind of bad news? I hate to admit it, but I may have run like hell!
However, in spite of all the mistreatment that Jesus warns them about, he also
tells them that they will be taken care of! “Are not two sparrows sold for a
small coin? Yet not one of them falls to the ground without your Father’s knowledge.
So don’t worry; you are worth more than many sparrows. Even the hairs of your head are numbered.” He sums up his
instruction by telling them to be sure to acknowledge God before others during
the best of times and the worst of times!
Faithful Catholics, as a member of his
church, Jesus sends us out as well and asks us to acknowledge our faith in the
best and worst of times. For the church today, these are some of the most
unsettling of times we have seen for a long time, which makes acknowledging our
faith very difficult on some days! These are rough times, yes, but one of the
good things that has come out of this time of trial is that it has forced every
Catholic to reevaluate his or her faith!
Embarrassed, some Catholics have no
doubt, thrown in the towel on the church! Even though I find that tragic, I can
understand their response - and I don't find it surprising! What
really surprises me is the fact that many of you are staying
and are working through all of this uncertainty! You are the
people who keep me going! I have said more than once, I can see that
your faith is well placed. Your faith is not, nor has it ever been, in the
church's messengers! The church has always referred to you as “the
faithful,” and so you are! You have loved your priests, no matter
how quirky and weak they have been, and I believe that most of you still do!
That’s what makes this so painful for you: the realization that someone that
you have loved so much could, in their sickness, do harm to children! The
revelation of these events has no doubt shaken some of your faith, but not
destroyed it. Your faith is built on solid rock! It will stand! Jesus asks you
today to acknowledge your faith to others in the best and worst of
times just like he asked his original followers to do!
Jesus has sent me out, as well as you,
and has asked us to acknowledge our calls in the best and worst of times! I can
still remember the days right after the sexual abuse scandal broke into the
open here in Louisville. I caught myself one day putting my hand over my Roman collar at a stop
light so nobody could see it. I was embarrassed to be a priest! My feelings were published in America Magazine in 2002 in an article I submitted called "Collateral Damage: How One Priest Is Feeling These Days." It still
saddens me to remember how I felt writing it in just about an hour on my front porch!
In my 56 years of priestly ministry, I
have also seen some great times. As a priest, I have experienced some
incredibly marvelous things, things I could not have imagined being part of
when I was growing up! Yes, I have a few set-backs that I thought I would not
live through, but they have been so few compared to the numerous wonderful
things, even incredible things! As I trudged through that sexual abuse scandal
a few years ago, everything went through my mind. For the very first time, I
caught myself imagining what I would do if I were not a priest! It was only
momentary, but still it is significant that my mind even went there to begin
with! What was shocking, even to me, is that I had even felt a twisted kind of
envy, yes envy, of those who were forced out! I knew that some of my brother
priests who had lost everything because of their twisted behaviors and were
dismissed also experienced a great freedom: with their whole lives exposed,
they were finally free of the heavy burden of other people’s expectations,
something that those of you who have never been in our shoes as a public
person, may not understand. In spite of those painful days, when all
was said and done and when I came to the end of a day’s worrying, I always
returned to the fact that that pain was good pain! Children
must be protected! Priests must be trusted and those of us who remain must, as
St. Paul puts it: “Preach the gospel in season and out of season, whether
convenient or inconvenient!” As for me, I am hopefully here to stay, even though
I cannot say that I have always been without fear. I am trying to carry on and
not be afraid. With God’s help and with the finish line in sight, fear will
hopefully not overwhelm me the rest of the trip!
I served the archdiocese as the
Vocation Director during the height of that scandal. When I was the local
Vocation Director, what did I say to those who might feel called to priesthood?
To them, I simply said this. "The church needs you now more than
ever!" To any would-be-priest, in all honesty, I would say this
even today! "If you fold in face of every crisis and you collapse every
time you face a set-back, you probably should think twice before getting into
this way of life!" It has always taken some kind of courage to be a
priest. I believe that it will take even more courage in the future. As
scripture says, “My son, if you seek to serve the Lord, be ready for a battle!”
As one-about-to-be-ordained seminarian was quoted in NEWSWEEK magazine a few
years ago when a reporter asked him if he was hesitant about going into the
priesthood, he said this. "This is the priesthood today -
to suffer for things you did not do!" If he was ordained, that young man
is no doubt making a fine priest somewhere! Going into it, he was
obviously aware of the warning Jesus gave the first group of disciples that he
sent out in today's gospel!
I learned a long time ago that
priesthood, whether it is your baptismal priesthood or my ordained
priesthood, is actually healthiest when it isn’t a bed of
roses! As the old saying goes, “Whatever doesn’t kill you will make you
stronger!” For me, priesthood has seldom been a bed of roses, but in my book,
it has definitely been worth it! Many of you could say the same thing about
being a parent. It may not have been a bed of roses every day, but it has
certainly been worth it!
My friends, we live in trying times
when it comes to remaining faithful Catholics. Many have simply walked away
from the church. Being faithful Catholics, we are sometimes attacked and
ridiculed for our fidelity. There are indeed many thorny issues dividing us,
but in spite of our fear I have met so many fellow Catholics who are trying
their best to hang on! They inspire me to hang in there with them!
I once heard a great preacher compare
the church today to being a gigantic egg. I have shared that story with you
many times before. He said that some days we wake up and that egg is covered
with small cracks - ever widening cracks! Many simply run away for the ensuing
mess. Others are running around with tape and string and ladders yelling that
it is falling apart and we must do something to hold it together.
That great Catholic preacher
suggested, on the other hand, that when the egg starts cracking like that, we
need to stand back and let it hatch! We are not dying! We are giving birth! I
grew up on a farm and I know that he was right. I know that the dumbest thing
you can do when an egg is about to hatch is to try to prevent it! In trying to
prevent it from cracking, you can actually smother the new life that is
struggling to get out!
Sending them out, Jesus said to them: "Fear no one! Do not be afraid! Have no fear!