Sunday, June 7, 2026

EVERY SUNDAY IS A "FAITH FAMILY REUNION"


Whoever eats my flesh and drinks my blood
remains in me and I in him. The one who feeds on me
will have life because of me.
John 6:51-58

The Eucharist!  The Lord’s Supper!  The Blessed Sacrament, Holy Communion!  The Breaking of Bread! The Mass! Throughout our 2,000 year history, we have used several words to describe what we do here today. One of my favorites words for the Eucharist is that old fashioned word “viaticum.”  “Viaticum” was what we called the Eucharistic Bread when we gave it to those who were moments away from death.  It was their last Holy Communion.  The word “viaticum” means “nourishment you take with you when you set out on a trip.” 

Every time I hear that word "viaticum," I think of the day I was called to the hospital to be with the family of a farmer from down home who had been wounded in an awful tractor accident. The family wanted me to anoint him and give him communion. The doctors wanted me to help the family decide to turn off the machines who were artificially pumping his blood through a badly swollen body. I talked to the family for a while about turning off the machines and helped bring them to the place where they could make that decision in peace. I anointed him, and since he could no longer swallow, I decided to place the pix (a small gold container carrying the Blessed Sacrament) on his chest over his heart as they were turning off the machines. That gesture was the closest thing I could do to give him "viaticum," "bread for the journey and strength for his trip" back to God! 

The fact of the matter is, we are invited to receive “viaticum” every Sunday, the first day of every week, as “bread for the journey and strength for the trip” to help us during the week ahead.  This is not just any bread: when we eat this bread Jesus invites us to “feed on” his very flesh and blood.  We go forward each week then with God’s power under our belts! Two other words closely associated with this meal make it even more life-giving and soul-strengthening.  The word “parish” means a way station for pilgrims.  Like one of those stagecoach stops in the old western movies, a “parish” is where spiritual pilgrims stop to refresh themselves before continuing on their trip.  The word “companions” comes from the Latin words for “bread” and “with.”  So “companions” are “people you eat bread with.” So, what are we here for?  We are here as spiritual pilgrims on a journey to the Lord.  Our “parishes,” are fueling stations where we receive “viaticum,” bread for the journey - places to be encouraged by our “companions,” other spiritual pilgrims with whom we share this Bread of Life.

One of my favorite parables is the parable of the wedding feast where Jesus teaches us that “the good and bad alike” are invited to come and “celebrate with him.” This parable, and others like it, have always raised the question about who is worthy to receive the Eucharist: even more, what is the purpose of the Eucharist?  Is the Eucharist a reward for good behavior or the medicine sinners need to be healed?  It is the church’s duty to protect the Eucharist from desecration, heresy and triviality.  The church has done its job well over the centuries, but in a zealous attempt to protect the Eucharist, has it not ended up sometimes keeping it out of the very hands of those for whom it was most intended, those who most need it? 

There may be another way to look at the Eucharist: not simply as a reward for good behavior, but more so as powerful medicine for the sick of soul.  Jesus told stories like the parable I mentioned because he was under attack from religious leaders for welcoming sinners and eating with them!  Jesus believed that by welcoming them and being with them, they would more likely be motivated and strengthened to let go of their sins and be transformed. Even Judas was invited to the last supper! He was not only invited, he was invited to sit in the place of honor.  It was to Judas that Jesus gave the “choice morsel,” traditionally given by the host to the most honored guest!

Early Christianity preserved the idea of the Eucharist being medicine for sinners, placing the marginal and the wounded in the center of their communities in order to give them greatest care.  As time went by, probably because of doctrinal and discipline concerns, the idea of “worthy and unworthy” crept in.  Over time, feeling unworthy, people stopped going to communion, for all practical purposes, with Eucharistic adoration taking precedence over the reception of communion.  It got so bad that the church had to finally mandate communion once a year.  It was known as our “Easter duty” and it is still in effect today.

My own thinking in this matter has been affected greatly by 56 years of pastoral experience, especially by something that happened to me one day here at the Cathedral where we had a major outreach to disaffected Catholics. I was distributing communion.  Out of the corner of my eyes, I saw a woman who had come to see me the day before.  She was divorced from an abusive husband and had remarried. She did not believe in divorce, but had successfully rebuilt her life.  Even though she longed for the Eucharist, she had not received it since her divorce.  She was crying.  In front of me was a line of people, many of whom were validly married in the church.  Some of them were coming toward me, looking around, winking and waving at friends, obviously not very conscious of what they were doing or how important it was!  I don’t challenge the teaching of the church on the permanence of marriage, but I kept saying to myself: “We’ve got this “who’s worthy” thing all wrong!  That woman needs this more than anybody in this line!” 

This sacrament is cheapened, I believe, not so much by giving it to sinners who recognize their need for healing, but by giving it to unconscious people who care little about it, people who are not prepared to receive it, people who do not recognize the presence of the Lord.  St. Paul put it this way to the church at Corinth, “Everyone is to recollect himself before eating this bread and drinking this cup, because a person who eats and drinks without recognizing the Body is eating and drinking his own condemnation.”

Yes, I believe that the Eucharist is cheapened more by those who receive it unconsciously, routinely and without awareness than those who have sinned and know they need it as a powerful medicine for their souls!  

 

 

 


 

 


 


Thursday, June 4, 2026

TALKING TOO MUCH AND THE POWER OF SILENCE


How to Know if You're an Excessive Talker

Determining what qualifies as excessive talking is largely subjective. What one person may regard as "excessive," another may consider "outgoing." With that said, excessive talking is generally regarded as behavior that is outside the social norm or one that is inappropriate for the situation.

Signs of excessive talking include:

- Talking over others
- Monopolizing conversation
- Speaking at inappropriate times or places
- Oversharing information
- Speaking impulsively
- Fearing gaps in the conversation
- Speaking more than listening
- Changing or rerouting the conversation to what interests you


We can even learn something about "talking too much" from the likes of the notorious Machiavelli (diplomat, author, philosopher and historian from Florence, Italy, 1469-1527) who is infamous for his brutal political treatise THE PRINCE. In this video, without embracing everything he espouses, even he can teach us some valid points about the power of silence.

                             




 



 


 


Tuesday, June 2, 2026

THANK GOD I HAVE A GOOD COMPUTER PROBLEM SOLVER

GARY MARVIN, MY SEMINARY CLASSMATE AND COMPUTER TECH, AT WORK ON MY COMPUTER
Here are just a few of the problems he has helped me solve over the years!  









Sunday, May 31, 2026

LOOKING DOWN, LOOKING OUT - BEING LOVED, LOVING OTHERS

 

Today is the Feast of the Holy Trinity. It is traditional for many preachers to begin their homilies with the statement that the Holy Trinity is a mystery and then talk for twenty minutes proving to people that it is still a mystery. Today, I have decided to do something different starting with those wonderful words from today's gospel.


"God so loved the world that he sent his only Son. God did not send
his Son into the world to condemn the world, but that the world might
be saved through him.
John 3:16-18

"God so loved the world that he sent his only Son not to condemn the world, but to save it?" "To love, not to condemn, but to save?" In light of those words, I am going to do two things today. (1) I am going to say a bit about what we are told that God sees as he looks down on us. (2) I am going to say a bit about what I see looking out at you! 

WHAT DOES GOD SEE LOOKING DOWN AT US?

What God sees looking down on us is summarized in today's gospel. "God so loved the world that he sent his only Son. God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but that the world might be saved through him." Those words are a re-affirmation of the words recorded in the Book of Genesis. "God created mankind in his image. In the image of God, he created them; male and female he created them." "God looked at everything he had made, and found it very good." 

(1) The first thing today's gospel teaches us is that it was God who loved us first and sent his Son because he loved us. (2) The second thing today's gospel shows us is that God is not acting for his own sake, but for our sake, not to satisfy his desire for power, not to bring a universe to heel, but to satisfy his urge to love.  God is presented to us as a Father who cannot be happy until his wandering children have come home to him. (3) The third thing today's gospel shows us is the width of God's love. It is not a single nation that he loves. It is not only the people who love him that he loves. It is not only the people who love him back that he loves. He loves the whole world! He loves the unlovable and the unlovely. He loves the one who loves God and the one who never thinks of God. He loves the one who basks in the love of God and the one who ignores the love of God. As St. Augustine put it, "God loves each one of us as if there was only one of us to love."  God did not send his Son into the world to condemn us, but because he wanted to show the world that he loved us! Because he loved us so much, he wanted to save us from our own self-destruction!

Because people do not seem to understand the concept of "the unconditional love of God for us," they keep reverting to their "sinners in the hands of an angry God" theology which promotes a stern, angry, unforgiving, get-even God, rather than a gentle, loving and forgiving God. So many so-called "believers" still think that if the "unconditional love of God for us" is preached convincingly then people will start doing anything they want to do and all hell will break loose! They believe that preaching the "fear of God" is the only way to motivate them to change and keep them in check! That's sad indeed and it's wrong! The truth of the matter is that God looks down on us with great love - always has and always will!     

WHAT DO I SEE LOOKING OUT AT YOU? 

As I look out at the congregation of Our Lady of Lourdes when I come here, I don't just see a crowd! I see you! I see individuals! In a sea of families, some individuals stand out: young families with small children, immigrants, widows and widowers, special needs children, struggling youth, racial minorities, old people with canes and walkers and even military personnel sometimes.  

I SEE YOU AND I PRAY FOR YOU

I pray especially for those married couples in church with 1,2,3,4 or more kids in tow. They have given up their own comfort and convenience and have committed themselves to becoming servants of their children for several years. They provide them with food, shelter, health care, entertainment, education and protection. They cook for them. They do their laundry, cut their hair or take them to the barber shop, shop for their clothes, meet with their teachers, wash and maintain the family car and teach them how to use technology properly. They take them to endless sports events, make costumes for Halloween and take them Trick or Treating, help them with their homework, serve on boards and committees, take them to the doctor, fund extra-curricular activities, bake cakes, muffins and cookies on demand for school and parish events, volunteer at church, look after their own elderly parents, celebrate their birthdays, decorate the house for holidays, help them with Sacramental Preparation, get things repaired and try to keep things running smoothly around the house. 

I pray especially for the older parishioners, especially widows, widowers and those who are single either by choice, circumstances or divorce. I pray for the immigrants who still struggle to adapt and find their way. I pray for the sick, the home-bound and those in institutions like prisons, away from home for school, in hospitals or nursing homes and in the military.  

As I look out and see immigrants, I am reminded to pray for them and my many friends in other countries around the world, especially in Ireland, Germany, Belgium, St. Vincent and the Grenadines, Trinidad, Togo, Kenya and Tanzania. Because I was lucky enough to lead well over 150 priest convocations and retreats in 10 countries, and because I was lucky enough to establish the "World Priest" program at St. Meinrad serving priests and seminarians from several more countries who are now serving in the US, I know people from around the world and hear from many of them especially around the holidays. I intentionally and regularly pray for them and their families.  Yes, I even pray for the ancestors of our Native Americans, from whom we European immigrants basically stole this land, as well as the ancestors of our African Americans we basically stole from several African countries as slaves.    

I pray with a special intensity for our youth and young adults, especially those who are bullied, those confused about their sexual identity, those who have been abused, those with low self-esteem, those who are lonely, those battling addictions, those who suffer from debilitating physical conditions including obesity and those who risk life and limbs serving in the military.  I pray that they will choose to embrace the church especially when they grow into adulthood and settle down.  

I SEE YOU AND I PRAY FOR MY OWN ABILITY TO INSPIRE YOU

I pray that I can be a better priest. I pray for my own ability to inspire you to be better disciples through my words from pulpits like this and through my many blog posts, through my efforts to give you the best quality service I can give you and through my example as a friendly and compassionate person at the door when you arrive and leave Mass.   

I pray especially for my own good health at 82 years old. So far, so good! I know that I am lucky. Realizing that I am lucky, I also pray that if I do have some serious health issues coming up, I will somehow be able to model for others how to handle pain and suffering with as much poise and grace as possible like I have witnessed many parishioners like you handling it.   

Besides my past blessings and present good health, I pray with deepest gratitude for my faith, my vocation and what I already have materially. I do not pray for a bigger house, a newer car, a better job, a better family, another vacation or even for more income. I find myself "satisfied" with what I already have and for the people who already love me. I pray that you do too!