MY BROTHER, GARY, HAS DIED
My one-year-younger brother died peacefully at his home in Brandenburg on March 17 after a diagnosis five weeks ago of an aggressive form of leukemia. After consultation with his doctors, Gary decided against any hospitalization, intervention or resuscitation. He was pain-free and welcomed family and friends all the way up to the last two or three days. He was prepared, grateful, unafraid and ready to go when the time came. The way he handled his passing was wonderfully inspirational to his family, his siblings, his relatives, his friends, his neighbors and his fellow parishioners alike. We loved him very much!
William Gary Knott
June 8, 1945 - March 17, 2026
Obituary Below Submitted By Gary's Family
William Gary Knott, age 80 of Brandenburg KY entered eternal life on March 17, 2026, surrounded by his loving family.
Gary was born on June 8, 1945, in Rhodelia, KY son of the late Mary Ethel Mattingly Knott and James William Knott. Along with his parents, he was proceeded in death by, a sister, Kaye Ray, and 2 brothers-in-law, Paul Mattingly and Tom Wooldridge.
Gary graduated from Meade County High School in 1963. When Gary wasn’t in the log woods, he enjoyed the simple things in life like fishing and hunting.
Gary is survived by his 4 children, Lisa Knott of Brandenburg KY, Diane Pike of Caneyville, KY, Wesley (Laura) Knott of Brandenburg KY, and Danny (Pam) Knott of Payneville KY; 9 grandchildren, Derek, Tasha, Tiffany, Kari, Lawrence, Wesley Kyle, Corey, Haley and Dylan; 9 great-grandkids and one on the way; 4 siblings, Brenda Mattingly of Brandenburg KY, Father Ronald Knott of Louisville, KY, Lois Wooldridge of Brandenburg KY, Nancy (Randy) Smith of Brandenburg KY and Mark Knott of Rhodelia, KY; and brother-in-law, Richard Ray of Rhodelia, KY.
Visitation will be held Friday, March 20, 2026, at St Theresa of Avila Catholic Church from 9:30 A.M. until time of service.
A Funeral Mass of Christian Burial will be held at 11:00 A.M. on Friday, March 20, 2026, at St. Theresa of Avila Catholic Church with Father Knott, Father Ray, Father Martin, and Father Illikkal officiating, burial will follow in the church cemetery.
In lieu of flowers, donations can be made to St Theresa Family Life Center, (9245 Rhodelia Rd, Payneville KY 40157), where Gary went to school.
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Alternative Expressions of Sympathy for Non-Local Readers of This Blog
If you would rather express your sympathy by helping finish furnishing the mission school project in Tanzania, in Gary's memory, you can make your tax-deductible gift to: Father John Judie Ministries and send it to: Father Ronald Knott, 1271 Parkway Gardens Court, #106, Louisville, KY 40217.
Funeral Homily
for
WILLIAM GARY KNOTT
by his brother
Fr. J. Ronald Knott
Gary and Linda have four children: Lisa,
Diane, Wesley and Danny. With their spouses, those four gave Gary and Linda nine
grandchildren: Derek, Tasha, Tiffany, Kari, Lawrence, Wesley Kyle, Corey, Haley
and Dylan. Gary and Linda have nine great grandchildren and one on the way, as
well as a host of extended family members, friends, neighbors and fellow
parishioners - some living and some deceased. To all of you and all of them, welcome today,
as we give Gary back to God who gave him to us!
Joining you today, are Gary’s siblings: his
two brothers, me and Mark, and his four sisters: Brenda, Lois, Nancy and Kaye who
has already passed on. Altogether, we
have twenty nieces and nephews. Just a year apart, Brenda, Gary and I, especially,
grew up together. Lois, Nancy and Kaye were babies and young girls in my
memories so I don’t have as many shared growing-up experiences. Mark was born
after I had been in the seminary for several years. Brenda and I, as well as Gary
and me, shared many childhood experiences, while Mark had some very
different childhood experiences of his own - mostly a work relationship with
Gary. I remember Gary’s and Linda’s family more when they were young (Diane and
Lisa, Wesley and Danny) especially during those years when Gary, Mark and I
used to host our annual “Uncle Parties” after Christmas. Gary’s and Linda’s
grandchildren and great grandchildren I barely know because of my assignments
as a priest, especially when I was stationed down in southern and central
Kentucky. To make up for me being my niece’s
and nephew’s “missing uncle,” I am still sending Gary’s four kids, and
their mother Linda, a birthday card every year, as far back as I can
remember, as a way of staying connected.
Because of mine and Gary’s shared
experiences of growing up, and Mark’s more recently, my mind immediately went
to the gospel parable of the Loving Father (sometimes mis-named “the Prodigal Son”)
that Deacon Greg just read - only in reverse. My experience was more like the
younger son in the story and Gary’s and Mark’s experiences are more like the
older son. In the story, one son leaves home to experience the world while the
other son stayed home to pick up the slack left by the other son.
It certainly took courage for me to
leave home at age fourteen, but it also took courage for Gary to stay home at
thirteen and Mark who is still there! There were blessings that came to me for
leaving and blessings that came to Gary and Mark for staying close to home.
To be honest, we gradually grew apart, and
like the two sons in the gospel, we probably had a few little aggravations about
each other. Me, knowing that Dad obviously related to Gary and Mark more than
me, and Gary and Mark knowing that I had more freedom than them. Growing up, it
was obvious to everyone that Gary was the handsome one and I was the homely one
and that Mark was a cute little boy, much more so than I had ever been at that
age! In the big picture, all small stuff, really!
I am sure they both resented the fuss made
over me as a priest for being so visible in the newspapers and constantly being
talked about by people to whom I have ministered. I was like the younger son in
the gospel who was always coming home to some kind of special fanfare and celebrations.
I know that resentment to be true, especially, when Mark recently gave me a funny,
but somewhat sarcastic, plaque and a tee shirt that says, “Father Wonderful!” I
knew it to be true also when Kaye, who died a few years ago, once said about
me, “I am so tired of being introduced as Father Knott’s sister – as if I don’t
have a name of my own!”
I have always loved my sisters (Brenda,
Lois, Nancy and Kaye), but Brenda, just a year older than me, had the greatest
impact on my life, both when we were growing up next to the Rhodelia store, and
especially when she and Paul took me in when I left home a second time and stopped
coming home during the summers when I was still in the seminary so as to take
jobs to support myself during my late seminary years.
I have some good memories of Nancy, always
the one with the compassionate heart for other people’s hurts and the one who
hosted many of our family Christmas “home Masses” and dinners. My favorite
memory of Lois, during the time when I got to know her best, was when we were
co-executors of Dad’s estate. One day, we went into one of the banks to do some
of our required business. When we went in, Lois introduced us this way. “Good
morning! We are Mr. Knott co-dependents!” Of course, she meant to say,
“co-executors!” We still laugh about that day because there is always a little
truth in humor!
One of the best parts of today’s gospel
parable is the part about the reconciliation between the father and the son who
left home. Like more families than you know, our family has some of our own
reconciliation stories. Happily, and Gary was so proud of it, today all of us in
the family are now reconciled with one another – me and Dad, Mark and Gary,
Gary and Linda - just to name a few.
Before this starts sounding like another
TV episode of the Waltons, let me say that the gospel parable that was read
today is not really about the Knott family, even though I tried to fit it into our
family, but more so about how God loves all of us here today no matter what -
no if, ands or buts about it! As another part of the Gospel of Matthew says,
“God makes his sun shine on the bad and the good and causes his rain to fall on
the just and the unjust!”
In today’s parable, the father loved
both of his sons (meaning all of us, of course) whether we leave home, whether we
stray and get in trouble, whether we stay home and follow all the rules and even
whether we get jealous of one another sometimes! (Chasing pigs, on the farm behind this church and
behind our house in Rhodelia, was a sore spot for both Gary and me, so I won’t even
mention the pigs in today’s parable!) This beautiful parable is really about
God’s unconditional love and the importance of reconciliation among parents,
siblings, relatives, neighbors – and, yes, even with our enemies!
With that said, let me speak directly to
Gary’s family as well as all of you here today. As a priest, I know from fifty-five
years of ministry that our families are not exceptional. Grudges, hurts,
disappointments and misunderstandings are rampant in families - always have been
and always will be! I have never met a family free of such problems.
Finally, let me tell you just a few things
I have learned about forgiveness. (1) Taking offense can be just as bad as
giving offense. Instead of forgiving my father for his faults, I sometimes fell
into petty little attempts at paybacks which ended up eating me alive. (2)
People tend to pass on what they know and what they learned from their families
unless someone in the family decides to put a stop to it and takes the
high road! (3) It took me three trips down home before I was able to sit down
with my dad, even after I decided to try being reconciled. It was both the
hardest and the most freeing thing I ever did in my life! Even at that, it was
more of a favor I did for myself than it was a favor to him! Before I left that
night, I gave him a hug, maybe for the first time in my life! I have had no hard
feelings since. I am at peace and so is he! (4) It is hard to be the bigger
person in such reconciliations, but I can tell you, that if you go into it “speaking
the truth with love,” it will be easier than you thought and you will be doing
yourself the biggest favor of your life! (5) Do it! Do it now! Do it before it
is too late! If you can’t, do not even dare to pray the Our Father ever again
until you do, because in that prayer you actually ask God “to forgive you - as
you forgive those who trespass against you!”
In closing, I am very sad today to lose another
one of my dear siblings – first Kaye and now Gary! I also know that Gary’s family is just as sad –
maybe even more so! As far as I know, Gary and I never had any real issues with
each other. We just gradually drifted apart. In fact, before I even heard about
his diagnosis, one of my New Year’s Resolutions for 2026, that I recorded in my
journal back in late November, was to call Gary more often! I remember calling
him back in November. When I hung up, I saw that we had talked for over forty
minutes – the longest time since we were kids! Near the very end, we got to
tell one another that we loved each other and that we were proud of each other.
I got to anoint him and bless the rosary Nancy gave him. Lois got to drink
coffee with him regularly and take him communion. At the end, we gave each
other a hug, we apologized to each other for drifting apart a bit, we celebrated
together the fact that his ending would be short and hopefully pain-free - and best
of all, we got to give each other a goodbye hug. I got a good picture with him on
my cellphone before I left. I am sure his family got to do the same! As, has
happened so many times in my life, several good things have already come out of
this bad situation!
Last Saturday night, I was reading about
the first 15 year old “video gamer” saint who was canonized just last September
– St. Carlo Acutis. Like Gary, St. Carlo died of an aggressive form of Leukemia
back in 2006. After his diagnosis, he only lived about two weeks – Gary about five
weeks! I was amazed at how many of the things Gary said to me sounded very much
like what St. Carlo said to his family and friends. Here is just one of the things
Gary told me – sometimes several times. “I feel good and I feel lucky. I am not
afraid. I am not trying to impress people. These are my true feelings. I think
I am reconciled with everybody I know. My goal now is to get to heaven. Nothing
else matters. I used to worry about going to heaven, but not anymore since you
anointed me and gave me absolution!” Later, I called him back and asked him ten
questions in all and I made sure I wrote his words down as we talked on the
phone. I will treasure them for sure!
Gary! Rest in peace, dear brother! Rest
in peace, Dad, Grandad and great Grandad! Rest in peace, dear friend, fellow parishioner
and neighbor! We are all going to miss you! May the angels welcome you
to paradise! Know that we will love you and remember you always! From your
place in heaven, please pray for all those of us who remain. Pray that we will be
able to handle our departure from this life half as well as you did! You have
inspired us all!