ABSOLUTE FIDELITY
God did not spare his own son,
but handed him over for us all.
Romans 8:32
Every year, on April 8, hundreds
of dog lovers gather in one of Tokyo 's
train stations to remember the loyalty and devotion of a university professor's
pet dog, Hachiko.
This dog was only 18 months old
when his master died of a stroke while at work. The next day, and for the next
nine years, Hachiko went to the station and waited for his beloved master
before walking home alone. Nothing and no one could discourage Hachiko from
maintaining his nightly vigil. It was not until he followed his master in death
nine years later that Hachiko failed to appear in his place at the railroad
station. A bronze statue of this dog still stands at his waiting place outside
the train station. Inspired by his faithfulness and loyalty, Hachiko was
mounted and stuffed and is still on display at the Tokyo Museum of Art.
What we have today, in our first
reading, is a story about fidelity and loyalty as well. This one is not about a
dog, but about Abraham, who Christians, Muslims or Jews all call "our
father in the faith!" Abraham is model of total trust and absolute
fidelity to God.
When we read this story, most of
us think about the poor boy, Isaac, all strapped on a woodpile with his father
standing over him with a knife ready to kill him to please a sadistic God! If
that is what we get out of this story, we have missed the point and failed to
understand its message.
We have to remember that Abraham
and Sara had been childless all their lives until one day when three strange
guests at their tent to tell them that they were going to be blessed with a
child in their old age. One cannot describe how excited they would have been in
that culture to have a son to carry on the family name.
As precious as this long-awaited
son was to Abraham, as joy-filled as he had been since his birth, Abraham
trusted God so much that he was willing to give Isaac up, if it came right down
to it. Abraham had trusted God before and had been blessed, so he was willing
to keep on trusting God even to the point of surrendering the one thing in this
world that was most precious to him.
Because of this, Abraham became an example to the world of radical fidelity
to God, even when things appear not to make sense and even when a good outcome
seems impossible.
When we get to Good Friday, we
will see this story acted out again when Jesus' radical fidelity to God holds
up even through a painful death on a cross! We often focus too much, I believe,
on the pain that Jesus suffered, when
the most important thing was his fidelity. It was his fidelity that pleased God. Jesus'
suffering manifested his unequivocal fidelity
to God.
Fidelity! We have a whole lot of
names for it: keeping a promise, carry through, doing what you said you'd do,
keep your word, putting your money where your mouth is, putting up and shutting
up, being faithful, to name a few.
When I was ordained a priest, 47 years ago this May, I made a promise to remain faithful to my ministry till
death, very much like many of you students will make when you marry someday
soon. Let me share with you a few things I have learned about fidelity.
(1) Fidelity is not static, by
dynamic. By that, I mean you don't just commit in some ceremony and
"puuuf," fidelity is guaranteed. It is always a way of life, rather
than a fact of life. Fidelity is something that must be freely and consciously
chosen every morning you put your feet to the floor, whether you're a marriage
partner or a priest. In a days time, lie offers innumerable opportunities to be
faithful or unfaithful. In fact, many of those around you today will actually
encourage you and entice you to be unfaithful, rather than faithful. In other
words, opportunities for infidelity, as well as some very convincing rhetoric
will try to entice you to be unfaithful. Like love, fidelity can often be
demandingly harsh, especially when you have to say "no" to things
that look good, smell good, taste good and feel good - all for the sake of a
higher good.
(2) Those who make commitments to
fidelity must count the cost before they make it and be able to pay the price
after they make it. In marriage, you must not be able to remain faithful
yourself, you have to marry someone else who has what it takes to remain
faithful. One should never make a lifetime commitment without having what it
takes to keep it. Before one takes such a serious leap as a life-time
commitment, one must be able to take baby steps before big steps. Before one
makes a lifetime commitment, it is a good idea to see if one can make small
commitments and keep them. Nemo dat quod
non habet. One cannot give what one does not have. If you never keep your
word, never follow through on even small promises, always take the latest best
offer no matter what you told someone else yesterday, never finish a project,
never can be counted on to show up, then you are not ready to be a priest or
get married. College is a good place to
practice your "fidelity ability." If you are constantly unfaithful
here in friendships and other commitments, you probably won't be able to be
faithful later in the relationship of marriage.
It is here that the Church gets a
bum rap. Catholic marriages are deliberately hard to enter - and that's because
Jesus told us those who enter them, enter them for life. Permanence of marriage
is not something the Church came up with. This permanence is something the
Church was instructed to uphold. Therefore, the Church makes a big deal in
trying to find out whether the two people marrying can not only make a commitment for life, but even
more so, be able to keep it over a
lifetime! Seminary students are brought through an even more strenuous process
to find out whether they should be
ordained, but even more so, whether they can stay ordained.
I'm always amazed by the fact
that people can stand before God and witnesses and pledge unconditional
fidelity to each other until death and come back three years later and get
upset that you won't witness a second and third unconditional pledge of
fidelity until death - all the while raging against the Church for not going
along with it. I have already made a pact with a good friend of mine that if,
for some reason or other, I should quit the priesthood, he will not allow me to
blame the Church for my inability to keep my pledge to be a priest until
death! I may not be able to remain
faithful to death, but if I can't, I promise not to blame anybody or anything
but my own self and my own weakness.
(3) Fidelity is often presented
as a horrible cross to bear with rewards only in the after life. Very little is
said about the payoffs of fidelity. I believe that fidelity has pay-offs
similar to regular exercise and a good diet. It's not easy, but it is
ultimately good for you and for
society. God knows we have seen the pain
that uncommitted partners, infidelity, latest best offers,
grass-is-greener-on-the-other-side-of-the-fence thinking have inflicted on
innocent marriage partners, families and especially children. Fidelity teaches
you a lot about yourself. It teaches you to work through problems, rather than
run from them. It helps you focus your energy in a more effective way. You
learn to be reliable and know that you have others to rely on, in a world that
is becoming more slippery by the day.
(4) One does not just make a
promise of fidelity and hope for the best or merely tough it out. One must tend
one's garden, pay attention on a daily basis and do all one can to protect
one's commitment from compromise and contamination. I have learned one thing
from hundreds and hundreds of failed marriages. They were not killed. They
simply starved to death, day after day, from lack of care and feeding - by one or the other or both!
One of my heroes is Father Pierre
Teilhard de Chardin, a French Jesuit and a scientist. Because of his new ideas,
he was silenced by Rome
in 1926. He was urged by many to leave, not only the Jesuits, but also the
Church. He decided rather to "go on to the end and with a smile if
possible." Why? He said, "When I took my vows I committed myself. To
break them would be an offense against honor." "One must work from
within," he said. "Those who leave no longer have any influence. The
ideas now considered revolutionary will be generally accepted...The day will
come; there can be no possible doubt about it."
Faithful God, help us develop the inner strength and
courage we need to be faithful too!