Some people just don’t know when to quit! And I’m not
talking about Elvis’ last concert! I’m talking about that part of all of
us that doesn’t know when to call it quits, even when it’s time. Knowing when to quit
after you have done your job is called the "Cincinnatus Factor." It
is named after a famous and very successful Roman General who quit at the top
of his game to return to obscurity.
I went through that during my last years
here at the Cathedral. My ten year term came and went and I was still here. I
had worked hard, I was proud of all that we accomplished together during those
years and I was not eager to let it go so easily. Because it was such an
exceptional assignment, the Archbishop left it up to me when to blow the whistle.
A big part of me wanted to hold on, but after 14 years I knew it was time to
move on so I asked him if I could resign. I did not want to be one of
those people who doesn't know when to quit and who attempts to stay so long
that things begin to unravel and the people who used to love them get to the
point they want to run them off! Even though my heart wanted to hang on,
I knew in my gut it was time to let go.
Parents go through this all the time. After doing a great
job of raising their children, after sacrificing to send them to college, there
comes a day when it is time for those children to leave and start a life of their
own. Instead of letting go, instead of not knowing when to quit, some parents
meddle in their children’s lives even after they leave home and start a life of
their own. If they cannot keep controlling their children’s decisions,
they begin down a path of emotional terrorism. It’s like the New Yorker cartoon
a few years ago. A woman is sitting on the couch, a child is playing on the
floor and the man is talking on the phone. The caption below read: “They say we
can go there for Thanksgiving or they can cut us out of the will. Our choice.”
Instead of focusing on living their own lives, those children end up focusing
on their parents - always reacting to, or avoiding, them. Soon resentment
becomes the norm. Those parents probably did a great job, but they didn’t know
when to quit. When they didn’t know when to quit, they actually began undoing
their own good work.
Some people, however, do know when to quit....and I’m not
talking about Evil Keneeval’s retirement. I’m talking about this strange bird,
this wild, bug-eating preacher, named John the Baptist. He knew his role. He
did it passionately and moved out of the way when the time came. As popular as
he was, he understood his role, he knew the fine art of being number two. He
pointed to the light and left the stage.
On this Feast of the Baptism of the Lord, we are asked by
the church to share his role as a “messenger.” Paul used the word
"ambassador." Paul called us “ambassadors of Christ.” Ambassadors do
not speak on their own, they represent someone in authority. Paul also called
us “earthenware jars that hold a great treasure.” We are the fragile
containers. We are not the treasure. We are, in the words of today’s gospel,
“witnesses to the light,” not the light itself. How many times have we, as a
church, forgotten that distinction!
Every arrogant clergy person, every fired-up religious
fanatic needs to have this message tattooed to the inside of his or her eyelids. There
is a temptation and a trap that always seems to come with being a highly
visible, highly successful, religious leader. The bigger the success, the
bigger the temptation and the bigger the trap. Just look at all the fallen Jim
Bakers of the last several years. They all had one thing in common: they
started out pointing to God, but ended up acting like little gods themselves.
Instead of pointing to the light, they ended up thinking they were the light.
I do know of one notable exception - our very own Bishop
Charles Maloney. He was auxiliary bishop to three Archbishops here in
Louisville. He was always an example of how to reflect the light onto someone
else. Through thick and thin, he was always a humble, prayerful, honest, and
faithful man, in spite of the powerful position he had held in the Church. He
never let the trappings of his position become a trap for him personally. He,
like John, lived a simple life, did his work well and got out of the way when
the time came!
John the Baptist is an example to all of us! He understood
his vocation, his mission. He did not draw attention to himself, but reflected
attention onto another, onto Jesus. He was a person who was sent to
prepare the way for another - for Jesus.
(1) It was made clear to me from the beginning that, as a
priest, I am sent “to serve, not to be served.” Priesthood is not my personal
possession, it’s not about me, it is about being of service to you, the
baptized members of the church. Pope John Paul II put it this way. “The
priesthood is “for” the laity, not "above" the laity and precisely
for this reason, it is a ministry “of service.”
(2) Most of you are called to married life. Marriage,
like priesthood, is directed toward the salvation of others. In spite of the
fact that our culture teaches people that they marry for what it can do for
them personally, marriage is for the benefit of their partners, their children and their communities. People who marry mainly to “be loved,” miss
the main point of marriage. The main point of marriage is not turned inward,
but outward. It is not so much about “being loved,” as it is about “giving love.” It is in giving that they receive. Like John the Baptist, a married person does not seek to draw attention to
himself, but projects his attention onto others.
(3) Parents, teachers, doctors and social workers are
called to service as well. The role of parents is to mentor children into
adulthood. The role of a teacher is to empower others for effective living. The
role of a doctor is to offer others healing guidance. Social workers are called
to help others get their lives back together in times of crisis. Like
John the Baptist, the whole purpose of parents, teachers, doctors and
social workers is not to be served, but to serve.
(4) Those of you involved here in the various liturgical
ministries of the parish need to remember the role of John the Baptist, be you
priest, musicians, readers, hospitality ministers, altar servers or Eucharistic
ministers. You do not perform your ministries to be admired or to impress
people. The attention must always go to the assembly. At the end of the day,
the only question worth consideration is this. "Have we helped the members of the congregation pray, move closer to God, understand the Scriptures and have new
insights into themselves? We are not here to show off or impress people with
what we can do. We are catalysts. We are conduits. We are here for others. It’s
not about us! It’s about those we are trying to serve!
My friends, in a world where being number one, being on
top, being first, being the winner, being the survivor, John the Baptist has a
different message, a challenging message, a counter cultural message. Yes,
there are times when we are called to “be all we can be,” but there are also
times when we are called to empower others to “be all that they can be.” John the Baptist reminds us
of the world’s best kept secret - the more we put ourselves in the center, the
more unhappy we become. As I used to tell the Bellarmine students, "Beware
of those who tell you that happiness consists of grabbing enough power to
insulate yourself from having to deal with ordinary people." It is a
popular thought these days, but it's a trap. The great Albert Schweitzer nailed
the truth when he said, “I don’t know what your destiny will be, but one thing
I do know: the only ones among you who will be really happy are those who have
sought and found how to serve.”