Sunday, March 3, 2019

REMOVING SPLINTERS WITH A LOG IN YOUR OWN EYE


Why do you notice the splinter in your brother's eye,
but do not perceive the wooden beam in your own?
How can you say to your brother,
'Brother, let me remove that splinter in your eye,'
when you do not even notice the wooden beam 
in your own eye?You hypocrite! Remove the wooden beam 
from your eye first; then you will see clearly to remove
 the splinter in your brother's eye.
Luke 6

                                











There is a constant stream of condemnation these days coming from religious leaders because of society’s “opposition to our values.” More and more religious blogs, websites and pastoral letters decry “moral relativism” and “secularism.” While most of what they say is true, I believe simple condemnation of others is a cheap way for designated spiritual leaders to feel good about themselves. If what they say is true, then we need to look at how we have failed our culture and quit blaming those we are called to lead. Instead of asking, "what's wrong with you people?" I think we should be asking ourselves, "what's wrong with us?" 

Personally, I like to shift the focus from them to me. “How can I improve my ability to influence the culture?” “How can I be more effective as a spiritual leader?” Why is what I am doing, and the way I am doing it, not working? Why am I not able to "sell" our values and convince people to "buy into" our message?

I have always been moved by the words of St. Gregory the Great who wrote the classic On Pastoral Care. “Although those who have no knowledge of the power of drugs shrink from presenting themselves as physicians of the flesh, there are those who are utterly ignorant of spiritual precepts but not afraid of professing themselves to be physicians of the heart.” What he is saying is this: if we claim to be serious spiritual leaders worth listening to, then we need to be able to deliver on those claims - we need to be spiritual leaders in fact, not just in name!

When I taught future priests over at Saint Meinrad Seminary, the next generation of spiritual leaders in the forefront of the Church, I told them, over and over again, that it is not good enough for them to be personally pious, they must be able to be effective as spiritual leaders if they are to influence today’s culture. In other words, it is not enough for their parishioners to see golden light coming out of their rectories, they must be able to drive through their parishes and see golden light coming out of the homes of their parishioners.

Instead of tedious and grating condemnations and criticisms of our culture, I think it would be more helpful for those of us in church leadership to step back periodically and ask ourselves where we have failed that has allowed things to have gotten this bad. Why were we not able to influence the culture more effectively? If we supposedly have “the Truth,” why do people not listen to us? The German philosopher Friedrich Nietzsche may have some advice for us. “Let us stop thinking so much about punishing, criticizing and improving others. Instead, let us rather raise ourselves that much higher. Let us color our own example with ever more vividness.”


Why do you notice the splinter in your brother's eye,
but do not perceive the wooden beam in your own?

In the last ten years, I have lectured at priest retreats, convocations and study days, usually a week at a time, in over one hundred dioceses in ten countries. My topic is usually about the quality of our spiritual leadership and our need to get better at it. This year I will be in Crookston (Minnesota), Bellville (Illinois), Saginaw (Michigan), Grand Island (Nebraska) and Pembroke (Canada). Here is a list of the eight conferences I am giving this year to the bishops, priests and sometimes deacons around this country and in Canada.  It is mostly about challenging them to become more effective spiritual leaders. 

“When the Things You Gave Your Life to Falls Apart”
“Quit Whining and Put on Your Big Boy Pants! It’s Time for Serious Priesting”
“Put the Oxygen Mask on Yourself First Before Assisting Others”
“Give Me a Break: Saying No to Gossip, Jealousy and Suspicion”
The Jonah Complex: The Convenience and Selfishness of Playing Small”
“Throwing Off the Crush of Garbage: The Power of Forgiveness”
“The Show Must Go On: We Don’t Have the Luxury of Coming Unglued”
“Crossing the Desert: An Exodus Spirituality for Our Times”

Maybe our biggest problem in the church today is the failure of religious leadership and the shortage of credible witnesses in our culture among the laity in general. Maybe we need to remove the beams in our own eyes, so that we can see better to remove the splinters in the eyes of those around us.


Why do you notice the splinter in your brother's eye,
but do not perceive the wooden beam in your own?
How can you say to your brother,
'Brother, let me remove that splinter in your eye,'
when you do not even notice the wooden beam in your own eye?
You hypocrite! Remove the wooden beam from your eye first;
then you will see clearly
to remove the splinter in your brother's eye.
Luke 6














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