Friday, March 16, 2018



I will prove myself worthy of my old age, and I
will leave to the young an example of how to die
willingly and generously for the revered and holy law.
II Maccabees 6:28

It occurred to me recently that I seem to been attending a growing number of funerals down in my home parish for aunts, uncles, neighbors and old friends from growing up days.

One of those funerals was January (2013). It was for John A. O’Bryan, uncle of Father Bob Ray, and an outstanding member of our parish community. I went to school with many of his, and his wife Anna Rita’s, 14 children. His 37 grandchildren, 58 great grandchildren and 6 great, great grandchildren almost filled the church.

One of the things that stood out in the many good things said about him was his “legacy.” His blood legacy is obvious, but what was talked about more importantly was his other “legacy,” the personal example he set for his young descendants. I was reminded of the Old Testament giant, Eleazar, from the II Book of Maccabees.

Eleazar was a very old Jewish man who was given the choice of eating pork against the teachings of his sacred faith or be killed. He could have saved his life by “going along.” His friends even tried to help him devise a scheme where he merely “appeared” to eat pork. He made up his mind to remain loyal to the holy laws of God.

His reasons are worth quoting directly. “At our age it would be unbecoming to make such a pretense; many young men would think the ninety-year old Eleazar had gone over to an alien religion. Should I thus dissimulate for the sake of a brief moment of life, they would be led astray by me, while I bring shame and dishonor on my old age.”

“Even if for the time being, I avoid the punishment of men, I shall never, whether alive or dead, escape the hands of the Almighty. Therefore, by manfully giving up my life now, I will prove myself worthy of my old age, and I will leave to the young a noble example of how to die willingly and generously for the revered and holy laws.” (II Maccabees 6:24-28)

Today I want to offer an encouraging word to all men and women, my age and older as regards our “legacies,” the examples we set and leave behind for the young. For many of you, it is for your children and grandchildren. For me, it is my 20 nieces and nephews, as well as parishioners, seminarians and college students where I used to do ministry.

Frankly, I am more and more scandalized and disgusted by the behavior of some adults and how it is affecting the young - from ugly, name-calling tweets from our President to the sexual promiscuity of many of their parents. It seems that all boundaries are falling even among people who should be examples to the young of how to live a life worthy of emulation. Adults are more and more involved in the excesses of youth. Meanwhile, the likes of Jerry Springer are making millions off their disgusting antics.

I often ask myself these days, “What will my many nieces, nephews, parishioners, seminarians and college students remember about me? Have I been kind, encouraging, generous, magnanimous and affirming toward them? Will they remember me as a credible example of fidelity and practicing what I have preached?” At this point, all I can honestly say is that I am trying!

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