Sunday, January 8, 2023

THIRSTY FOR SPIRITUAL AND PERSONAL GROWTH


Behold, magi from the east arrived.
Matthew 2

Just when you thought Christmas was over, we are presented today with these strange out-of-town stragglers called "Magi!"

I like these guys, these driven spiritual seekers from the east, these men on a mission! On top of it all, they were from present-day Iraq of all places! They were part of a tribe of priest-teachers to the ancient kings of Persia. They were men with an eye out for God. Their job was to watch the heavens for any unusual activity. Unusual activity among the stars was a sign to them that God was up to something. An unusually bright star, combined with a feverish search for God, meant they had to check it out. The star they followed even had a name. It was called “the birth of a prince.” Astronomers today believe there actually was a dramatic star-event about this time in history.  They left everything that was comfortable and familiar to them and set out for new lands, for new insights and for new understanding.  Their search led them to Jesus.

These brave souls stand in contrast to that woman in eastern Kentucky that I saw interviewed on KET a few years back. She had never been more than two miles from the mountain cabin she was born in. When asked why, she answered the reporter, “I just don’t believe in goin’ places!” These brave souls, these strange magi, did believe in going places, in having new insights, in expanding their understanding. They are my kind of people.

My friends, these strange spiritual seekers invite us today to go, not on some exotic vacation, but on our own serious spiritual quest. Personal and spiritual suicide is the result of saying “no” to opportunities to grow and to change and to expand our spiritual horizons.

The opportunities to grow, to change and to expand our spiritual horizons come to us in two ways: by accident and by choice. How they come is not as important and how we respond to these opportunities.

Sometimes things happen to us. We have no choice, except in how we respond to them. Maybe we have lost a job. Maybe we have just been through an unwanted divorce. Maybe we have been diagnosed with cancer. I have found, and observed in others, that when we deliberately reach out and embrace the unwanted situation and see it as an opportunity to develop on the inside, to go on a spiritual quest, it can transform a disaster into an opportunity.  This cannot be done easily or often. It takes great spiritual fortitude and courage. I think I have been able to do it only four or five times, but when I could look at a supposed disaster from another angle, I always came out of that situation in an even better place. The result of saying “no” to these opportunities is to live in the past in a constant state of desperation, thinking that if you just don’t like it enough, it will go away. In the end, people like this just “don’t believe in going places.” Unconsciously, they choose to stay stuck in “what might have been.”

Sometimes tragedies can trigger spiritual adventures. We can wait and embrace them as they come to us or we can deliberately set up situations where we are forced to grow.  I call this “inducing labor.”  Maybe we decide to leave an abusive relationship, resign a job that is killing our spirits, go back to school or enter a treatment program. It’s scary. You have to leave the security of where you have been and enter a time of great turmoil and chaos.  That’s why so many people resist change or turn away from it in a panic: the path to a new life is scary and painful. That’s why some people sign themselves out of treatment programs, why some young people never leave home, why some abused women return to their abusers: the fear of the known is not as scary as the fear of the unknown.  As much as they say they want things to be different, as much as they whine and revile, in the end, they give into their cowardice, they choose the status quo. In the end, they “don’t really believe in going places.”      

My friends, these Magi, these ancient spiritual seekers have a lot to teach us about the spiritual life.  In a world of people obsessed with working on their outsides, these men teach us about passionately working on our insides: pursuing the truth, stretching ourselves and our potential, being people in charge of their own passions, hungering and thirsting for holiness. They also teach us that spiritual growth is always a risk, always dangerous, always requiring great personal courage, but always worth it. As my new favorite writer puts it, "Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage." 

My life as a Magi started on a fire escape at St. Meinrad in the Spring of 1966 when I was in college. I was extremely bashful.  I avoided meeting new people or getting myself into unfamiliar situations.  I was scared of life.  I was what George Bernard Shaw called “a feverish little clod of grievances and ailments, complaining that the world would not dedicate itself to making me happy.” 

That day, I was standing on a fire escape outside my room at St. Meinrad Seminary with a fellow seminarian, Pat Murphy.  In what had to be one great moment of grace, an impulse gift from God, I suddenly blurted out, “Pat, I am so sick and tired of being bashful and scared of life that I’m going to do something about it even if it kills me!”

I was shocked by the words that came out of my own mouth! But from that moment on, I have been standing up to the coward in me.  I have been deliberately “slaying dragons” and “confronting demons,” in my head and on my path, ever since!  I decided that day not to indulge my resistance to personal and spiritual growth anymore. That day, on that fire escape, I made my first conscious decision to enter the world of intentional personal growth and deliberate living!  How appropriate and symbolic that my decision was made on a “fire escape!” I decided that day to quit being a coward and become a "Magi." I decided to deliberately put myself in new and challenging situations so I could grow as a person! I decided to quit being "safe" and, as a result, being "stuck!" 

First, I decided not to go back home when school was out that summer of 1966. I got an apartment here in Louisville and found a job - something that seminarians did not dare do back then! The next summer, I left Louisville to paint houses in the Chicago area. The following summer, a nervy move on my part, I took a job with the United Church of Christ as a camp ground minister, desk clerk and bar tender in Crater Lake National Park in Oregon. The summer after ordination, I decided to back-pack in Europe and meet up in France with hundreds of young adults from all over the world. I made five such trips over the following years. I applied to McCormick Presbyterian Seminary, another nervy move on my part, to get a Doctorate in Parish Revitalization, applied for and received a full scholarship and graduated. Later, I decided to go back to the seminary as a staff member and, with the help of a major grant from the Lilly Foundation, founded the Institute for Priests and Presbyterates, taught classes on pastoral ministry and conducted over 150 priest retreat in 10 countries. Since retirement, I started working in the Caribbean missions and made 12 trips. When that was stopped because of COVID and a volcano eruption, I started a major project in my home parish down in Meade County two years ago.  It's about 95% done.  

This will be the year when I hope God will introduce me to yet another journey. I am just 16 months away from turning 80! I will prepare myself by standing up to the temptation to say "no" "because people in their 80s don't do stuff like that!" As Henry Ford put it, "Those who believe they can and those who believe they can't are both right!" 

Maybe this is your "Magi" year as well, the year you begin that inner quest that you have been waiting to start! If so, get started! Be brave! Take a risk! Reinvent yourself! Don't be a coward! Get out there! Be a Magi!  As my new favorite author, Anais Nin, put it,

 "It takes courage to push yourself to places you have never been before....to test your limits...to break through barriers. And the day came when the risk it took to stay tight inside the bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom." 

 

    

 





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