Saturday, June 7, 2025

"YOU JUST CAN'T MAKE THIS STUFF UP" #23

 

MY WAY OR THE HIGHWAY

Funerals are often more memorable than weddings. Some funerals are more memorable than others. There is one I will never forget for a couple of reasons. I call it "The Big Stand-Off Funeral." I can't even remember who's funeral it was or some of the details, but I certainly remember a couple of "stand off" events that occurred at that funeral. 

I would love to get my hands on the priest who first allowed family members and friends to give "funeral eulogies" after communion! It has gotten completely out of hand. Many of the people who are asked to do it cannot handle public speaking because of choking up or nervousness, because they have no sense of time and because they say things that are inappropriate.

At this funeral, there were multiple people lined up to give "eulogies" which extended the service by @ 45 extra minutes. Even though they were told to "keep them short," they didn't! One of them even bragged at the beginning of his 20 minute "eulogy" that he was told to "keep it short," but said, "I am going to talk as long as I want because he (the deceased) deserved it!" 

The funeral started a little after 10:00 as we waited for the casket to arrive. The several "eulogies" took much longer than expected, which meant the funeral service was impinging on the next Mass which was to start at 12:00. By the time I came down the isle, at the end of the funeral, I met the pastor, fully-dressed to start the next Mass, standing there fuming in anger! It surprised me because he was known for his patience.

We both stood there in the back of church waiting and waving for the family to come out, but they would not budge from their pew. Slowly, it dawned on the two of us priests that we were actually watching a "stand off." The family had demanded that the organist and choir play and sing the "Notre Dame Fight Song" as exit music. The deceased was, no doubt, a University of Notre Dame Alumni and fan. The organist and the choir director refused to play the song. Neither would budge or change their minds. The family refused to come out of their pew and the organist and choir refused to play and sing the song! 

To this day, I can't remember who won the "stand off," but I suspect the choir director won! He probably didn't have the music. I also doubt whether the organist and choir got their stipends unless it was required "in advance!" 




Thursday, June 5, 2025

"I KNOW YOU ARE WEAK, BUT I LOVE YOU AND TRUST YOU ANYWAY!"

  

The disciples said to Jesus, “Now we realize that you know everything and that you do not need to have anyone question you. Because of this we believe that you came from God."
John 16:29-33

Earlier in this gospel, in verses 17 and 18, the disciples were puzzled by what Jesus had said. Beginning in verse 19, Jesus began to answer their questions even before they asked them. In other words, Jesus could read them like an open book. That is why they were able to leap into full faith in today’s text.

However, Jesus was a realist. He told them that, in spite of their belief, the time would come when they would desert him. This not only says a lot about his disciples, it also says a lot about Jesus. He knew they were weak, but he also knew that he still loved them and trusted them.

There are four things about Jesus that today’s gospel makes clear.

(1) Even though he knew that he would be abandoned by his closest companions, he knew that he would never be forsaken by his Father.

(2) Even though he knew his friends would abandon him, he did not threaten them then nor hold it against them later. He saw them and loved them as they were!

(3) There is one thing that sounds strange in this passage. Jesus says, “I have told you now that you would abandon me so that you may have peace!” The point is this – if Jesus had not foretold the weakness of his disciples, afterwards when they realized how they had failed him, they might have been driven to despair. It’s as if Jesus told them, “I know what’s going to happen; you must not think that your disloyalty came as a shock to me; I knew it was coming; and it does not make any difference to my love for you!” Here we see divine pity and divine forgiveness at work!

(4) Last, we see that Jesus is preparing them for a tremendous gift. They will come to realize, after his resurrection, that the world could do its worst to Jesus and still not defeat him. He will show them that life could do its worst to them as well, but they too could emerge victorious as well!

That is the message for us as well. We might have to go through hell on earth while we are here, we might let Jesus down over and over again in this life, but if we stay faithful to Jesus and trust in his love and mercy, we too can emerge victorious and enjoy his presence in his Kingdom forever and ever!





Tuesday, June 3, 2025

WHO DOES GOD LOVE?

 

The Lord takes delight in his people!
Psalm 149:4

If you were to die today and you stood before the gates of heaven and you were asked this one simple question test to see whether you got in or not, could you answer that one simple question? Here is that question. “Who does God love?” 

Well, if you are not sure, I am going to give you the correct answer. Pope Leo gave us the answer on the balcony when he was first presented to the world a few weeks ago. It is so simple, yet unbelievably astounding! Who does God love? ‘He loves everybody – everybody – and he loves us without condition!’ I have been preaching those words for most of my priesthood so I almost came out of my chair with delight when he said it! Yes, I was both shocked and relieved!  

One of the parables that most brings this point home to me is the parable of the vineyard workers. The parable of the “Vineyard Workers” is enough to make wine growers all over the world cringe! This parable is not an instruction on to operate a profitable vineyard. If you followed this example, you would be broke in no time! No, it’s a story about how God treats us, a story about God’s unbelievable generosity! For Jesus, the whole purpose of this parable is to shock in order to teach! This parable is insane, according to human thinking, but that’s the whole point of the parable.

Those who had “worked all day in the sun” were the religious authorities. Those “hour before quitting time” workers were the “tax collectors and sinners,” those who felt unworthy in God’s eyes, the simple people who followed Jesus!  You can imagine how both groups reacted when they heard the punch line, “Give them all a full day’s pay!”  “Give them all a full day’s pay!”

This message is very close to the message of another parable, the one we call the Parable of the Prodigal Son. In that story, the father loves both his sons, the one who stayed home and followed all the rules, as well as the one who strayed away and got down with the pigs! The message is simple: God loves all his children, not matter what they have done or failed to do!

The tax collectors, sinners and rejects were delirious with joy when they heard that message! The Scribes and Pharisees, who taught that God’s love depended on people’s behaviors, were outraged.

One of the worst things to happen to the church was when it started to “conditionalize” this “good news” and started teaching people that God loves you when you are good, quits loving you when you are bad and starts loving you again when you shape up!  It is not uncommon to hear some religious people tone down the “good news” because it is “too dangerous.” I was often criticized at the Cathedral by them when I welcomed home hundreds of fallen away Catholics by preaching this message. Their worst nightmare is that if people really believed the message of the parables and the church really taught it, all hell would break loose! People would start doing any damned thing they wanted! That’s the same thing that worried the Scribes and Pharisees. In reality, the opposite was true in Jesus’ day and the opposite is true in ours! People’s lives are transformed by that message! They are converted by this message! This message inspires them to love others the same way they have been loved by God – friends and enemies alike!  

What do you believe? Are you one of those people who still believes that God’s pays us with love depending how many hours we have loved him? Are you one of those people who still believes that God turns his love on and off depending what we do or fail to do?  If you are, really listen to the message of the parables. If it sounds too good to be true, then you have gotten the message! God’s incredible unconditional love does sound too good to be true, but the fact of the matter is, it is true! “While we were still sinners, Christ died for us!” He didn’t die for us as a reward for our shaping up! While we were still sinners, he died for us!


The Lord takes delight in his people!
Psalm 149:4

 

 

 

 

 


Sunday, June 1, 2025

WHEN PREACHING, TAILOR YOUR MESSAGE TO FIT YOUR AUDIENCE

 

You will receive power when the Holy Spirit comes upon you, and you will be my witnesses to the ends of the earth.
Acts 1:1-11

Last month, I celebrated the 55rd anniversary of my ordination to the priesthood. When I read the texts for today, the Feast of the Ascension, I realized that its words have indeed been at the very heart of my past 56 years of ministry, if you count my one year as a deacon.

Let me give you a quick synopsis of my own “going out to the whole world to proclaim the gospel” and what I have learned in the process.

My earliest memory of being attracted to preaching took place when I was seven years old in the Cloverport Baptist Church, way down river, at a family funeral. At that time, I had never before stepped foot in a Protestant church, but even at seven years old, I was absolutely fascinated by that Baptist preacher’s dynamic preaching style. I was both enthralled and hooked! Back then, I knew that I wasn’t supposed to like it, but that day I knew that I did anyway!

Growing up, our parish priest was a good man, but I do not remember him ever being any good at preaching. He avoided it as much as possible! In the spring, he would say that it was too hot for a sermon. In the fall, he would say that it was too cold. I do, however, remember being fascinated by the preaching of the priests who would come through every few years or so to conduct a Parish Mission. A bit scary, they would shout and walk down into the congregation waving a Bible or a big crucifix! They kept me on the edge of my seat in anticipation of what they would say next! It was obvious that they were there to challenge us to become better Christians and better Catholics! Even as a child, I took them very seriously!

The next time I remember being attracted to preaching was at Saint Meinrad Seminary. When I arrived there in 1965 as a Junior in college, Vatican Council II was going on and I remember taking to heart these words from that Council. “Priests have as their primary duty the proclamation of the Gospel of God to all.” Not only did I hear that challenge, but I was privileged to hear monks model good preaching every day in the seminary chapel.

As much as I was attracted to preaching, I had a problem. I was so bashful that I was terrorized by even having to read in the seminary chapel. It slowly began to dawn on me that I needed to overcome this handicap if I wanted to fulfill my “primary duty” as a priest after I was ordained. I resolved, then and there, to do whatever I could to conquer my crippling bashfulness.

That resolve eventually led me to sign up for a summer program for seminary students offered by the United Church of Christ. Their program was called a “A Christian Ministry in the National Parks.” I was the first of two Catholic seminarians to sign up for their summer preaching program. After my orientation in Chicago, I was assigned to preach in the campgrounds of Crater Lake National Park in the state of Oregon. In the summer of 1968, I preached in the park campgrounds twice every weekend all summer long. When I got back to Saint Meinrad Seminary for my final year of seminary, when we were offered our very first course in preaching, I went into that course with more preaching experience than anyone else in my class. During that final year of seminary, I was ordained a deacon and was given opportunities to preach at Saint John Vianney Church here in Louisville where I had been assigned.

Two weeks after being ordained a priest, I found out I was being assigned to the “home missions” down along the Tennessee border, to a parish the size of the state of Delaware where the Catholic population was only 1/10 of 1%. I was not happy, but I had no choice but to go. For ten years, preaching in a crowded sea of Protestant preachers became my main ministry. I was invited to preach three years in a row by a public high school graduating class at a school that had no Catholics in its student body. This happened after I had been invited as a guest speaker to answer their questions about Canterbury Tales in their English Literature class. I also had the opportunity to be an interfaith campus minister at Somerset Community College. I also preached "short church services" for the residents of a boys’ state-run juvenal delinquent institution.

After ten years in the “home missions,” I was sent to central Kentucky to a 225 year-old Catholic parish in Calvary, right outside of Lebanon, Kentucky. I went from an area with almost no Catholics to an area that was almost 100% Catholic! From there, after only 3 ½ years, I was suddenly sent to our Cathedral, a dying parish that was on the list of parishes being considered for closing. You heard me! The Cathedral was on a list of parishes being considered for closure. Parish membership had dropped to only 110 members. By focusing mainly on preaching to marginalized Catholics for fourteen years, we grew to over 2,100 members.

After leaving there, I went to preach to college students at Bellarmine University and to seminarians from around the world who were studying to be priests at Saint Meinrad. During fourteen of those following years, I published a weekly column in The Record that contained summaries of many of my homilies. I have preached over 80 Parish Missions and published quite a few books of collected homilies. I preached over 150 priest and bishop retreats in 10 countries. I have even addressed two conferences of Bishops: United States Conference of Catholic Bishops and the Antilles Bishops Conference. Finally, until COVID reared its ugly head and their volcano erupted, I was volunteering in the foreign missions of the Caribbean. I made 12 trips down there. I preached in their Cathedral many times, in the Bishop’s Pastoral Centre Chapel and several of their parishes.

After that, I went back to our Cathedral for a short time, only to learn the hard way that “you can’t go home again!” I finally came here to St. Frances of Rome and St. Leonard and have been preaching here happily for the last several years! I have also been preaching to the elderly on Mondays at the Little Sisters of the Poor and to the Louisville Ursuline Retirement Community some Sundays. I am now finishing building a church in Kenya in west Africa where the Catholic Church is growing, not shrinking.

Why am I telling you all this? During all those years, I learned the truth of what St. Gregory Nazianzus said, “One and the same exhortation does not fit all. According to the quality of the hearer ought the discourse of the teachers to be fashioned.” A preacher must change his style to fit the hearers in front of him. All of them require a different approach and a different style. Preaching to college students is different from preaching to nursing home patients. Preaching to non-Catholics is different from preaching to Catholics. Preaching here is Louisville is different from preaching in the Caribbean missions.

Here are some of those groups to whom we are called to preach the gospel.

• PRACTICING CATHOLICS:

These individuals rarely miss Mass, are present at most parish functions, take advantage of opportunities for faith formation, participate in the social ministries of the parish and support the parish financially. Oddly, this may be the smallest of the groups to whom I have preached. This was my main focus when I preached in Calvary and as a seminary staff member at Saint Meinrad. My fellow Catholics, we priests must stop the routine of preaching to the choir and start paying attention to who are NOT here – stop the routine of giving 90% of our attention to 20% of the flock just because they show up on Sundays. When will we get it through our thick heads that the numbers of those who show up are shrinking right in front of our eyes and the warmed-over. in-house. pietistic, “church-chat” we are dishing out from our pulpits is not that appetizing to most of our people?

• NON-PRACTICING CATHOLICS:

This group has been called “the second largest denomination in the United States.” They may still be registered members of a parish, but they attend Mass infrequently. Some of them may even send their children to sacramental preparation or religious education. When asked, they may identify themselves as “Catholics,” having been “raised Catholic,” “former Catholics” or “recovering Catholics.” This was my main focus when I preached at the Cathedral between 1983 and 1997, in my Parish Missions and quite often in my fifteen-year weekly Record column. Not all non-practicing Catholics are alike! I can list four different types of non-practicing Catholics and each require a different preaching style:

THE MAD — those who describe themselves as having been hurt, abused, or neglected by clergy or other church workers.

THE SAD — those “separated” from the Church because of marriage, divorce, sexual orientation or doctrinal issues. Typically, these people feel a sense of loss.

THE IGNORED — those who stay away because they do not feel accepted, do not feel that they fit in or do not see other minorities like themselves. Many are immigrants or people of color.

THE BORED — those who have no particular complaint with the Church, but who have grown weaker in the practice of the faith over the years, may not have been strong to begin with or who do not identify with much that any religion has to say. They are just flat out bored with what they experience. This could be the biggest group of non-practicing Catholics.

• OTHER BELIEVERS:

Those in this group are believers who identify with another faith tradition. Their attitudes toward Catholics vary from outright hostility and suspicion to that of interest and respect. This group is especially important because of the number of inter-religious marriages in our Church. This was my focus when I preached in Crater Lake National Park, down in southern Kentucky, the Caribbean missions and at the Cathedral, especially in my work with the Cathedral Heritage Foundation.

• THE UNCHURCHED:

These people do not identify with any organized religion. They describe themselves as “not interested in religion,” “spiritual, but not religious,” or “agnostics.” I have always found this group especially honest and fascinating. This group was my main focus in southern Kentucky, especially in Monticello.

Each of those groups require a different approach and a different style of preaching. We priests and deacons simply must move beyond our “one style” “take it or leave it” attitude.

In preaching to all these groups, I have tried my best over the last 56 years to carry out the words of Vatican Council II, “Priests have the primary duty of proclaiming the Gospel of God to all.” Because I consider preaching to have been my “primary duty” all these years, in my own funeral plans, I have asked to be laid out in my free Saint Meinrad casket, holding a copy of the Lectionary in my hands rather than a chalice that most priest are laid out with. It is a gift given to me by the Archbishop of Winnipeg, Canada, after a couple of days of talking to him and his priests about their “primary duty” of preaching. 

In all those years of preaching to such a wide-range of audiences, I have tried to heed the words of Saint Gregory the Great who said “The preacher must dip his pen into the blood of his own heart; then he will be able to reach his neighbor’s ears!” In other words, I have tried to share my own doubts, my own failures, my own sins and my own setbacks to show you that I am with you, not above you! To remind me of that, I have always tried to remember the words of the famous baseball player, Johnny Sain, who said, “People don’t want to hear about the labor pains, they just want to see the baby.” When sharing my problems, I have understood that people don’t want to hear about how bad I had it, they just want to know how to overcome their own setbacks and sins!

As I look out at you today and think of all the congregations in several countries to whom I have preached, let me say it again and again! It has been an honor to share the Word with you and so many other people in so many places! My "pulpit tour" today is a glimpse into the challenge of carrying the gospel “to the ends of the earth.”