Tuesday, October 28, 2025
MY IDEA OF "RETIREMENT"
Sunday, October 26, 2025
A POINTED LESSON ON HOW NOT TO PRAY
O God, I thank
you that I am not like the rest of humanity---greedy, dishonest, adulterous. I
fast twice a week and I pay tithes on my whole income.
Luke 18: 9-14
One of the things I like most about Luke’s gospel is that the
tables are always being turned. Losers win and winners lose. The
underdog comes out as the hero. We see it yet again in today’s gospel!
We are presented today with two men praying in the Temple.
The man in the front pew is a Pharisee, a holy man, a
conscientious keeper of religious laws in their minutest detail. He did
everything right, but his religious success has made him proud. He is so proud
of his religious observance that his prayer becomes an act of telling God about
all the good things he has done for God. He is so arrogant that he
even goes as far as putting down the man praying in the back pew. “Thank God,”
he prays, “that I am not like everybody else - greedy, dishonest and
adulterous- and especially like that tax collector back there in the back pew!”
This Pharisee probably wasn’t greedy, dishonest or adulterous,
but his success at being good was ruined by his pride and self-righteousness.
Instead of praising God in his prayer, he praises himself.
The man in the back pew, on the other hand, was a
tax collector, known for squeezing money out of his fellow Jews, even out of
the poorest of the poor, both for himself and the hated Roman government
occupying his country. He was praying, too, but his prayer was very different.
He simply beats his breast while looking at the ground, saying “God, have mercy
on me! I am a sinner and I know it!”
The man in the front pew was good, but proud! The
man in the back pew was bad, but humble! Jesus
praises the humble man’s prayer, and dismisses the proud man’s
prayer. The crowds of ordinary people listening to this little story, people on
the edges of religious observance, would have burst into applause at the punch
line. They hated arrogant, pride-filled religious types back then as much as we
do today.
We all pray like the proud Pharisee when we think to ourselves things like this.
"I thank you God, that I am not from Iran! I thank you God, that I am
not a Protestant! I thank you God, that I am not a Moslem! I thank you God, that I am not a Republican! I
thank you God, that I am not a Democrat! I thank you God, that I am not one of
those sick child molesters! I thank you God, that I am not an alcoholic or drug
addict! I thank you God, that I am not like those rich people who never worked
a day in their lives! I thank you God, that I am not like those welfare recipients
who never worked a day in their lives! I thank you God, that I am not one of
those right-wing conservatives! I thank you God, that I am not one of those
left-wing liberals! I thank you God, that I am not like that hypocritical,
self-righteous Pharisee in today’s gospel!"
Even though today’s parable was given to us by Jesus over 2,000
years ago, it is amazingly appropriate today, both in regard to our country and
in our church.
We are in a protracted political stalemate and an open-season on
angry words and nasty accusations Today, the only way you can get elected to
public office it seems is to disparage, demean, ridicule, categorize and vilify
people who do not agree with you. If you tend to be “conservative” in
your thinking, idealizing the 1950s in general, you run the risk of being
demonized as a “right wing crazy nut case.” If you tend to be “liberal”
in your thinking, demonstrating for the protection of immigrants, you run the
risk of being demonized as a “left-wing crazy nut-case.”
Even our Church, mimicking the worst of the political world, has
been infected by the politics of disparagement. If you question, even the most
trivial liturgical or organizational change of the restorationists or question
the withholding of communion to some politicians, you are demonized as not
being a “real” Catholic. If you like traditional customs of piety, you are
demonized as “reactionary” or “entrenched.”
The politics of disparagement, “my way or the highway,” stirring
up group feelings and pumping up group identity by vilifying others, is also
being used effectively by one or the other against us and we against them. “I
thank you God, that I am not like them, whoever they are!”
In the opening words of today’s gospel, we are told that Jesus
addressed today’s parable “to those who were convinced of their own
righteousness and despised everyone else.”
Imagine yourself watching the crowd listening when Jesus told this
parable. Imagine the shock on people’s faces when he got to the punch
line. When Jesus mentioned the Pharisee, some of the people would have thought
they needed to cheer, thinking he was supposed to be the hero. Pharisees,
after all, were good people. They were admired. Their efforts to be holy were
second to none. They tried extra hard not to be tainted by corruption and other
unseemly influences. They were serious spiritual seekers. The praying Pharisee
was probably not greedy, dishonest or adulterous. He probably did fast twice a
week and tithed scrupulously. When Jesus mentioned the tax-collector the crowds
would have thought they were supposed to boo with repulsion. Tax collectors
were known cheats. They collaborated with the enemy who had taken over their
country. He was guilty as sin. He knew it and so did the crowd.
But when the parable ends, to the surprise of the audience, Jesus
actually praises the prayer of the tax collector and dismissed the prayer of
the Pharisee. Why? All the Pharisee talked about in his prayer was what
he had done for God. All the tax collector talked about was what God had done
for him. The Pharisee put himself and his goodness in the center of his prayer.
The tax collector put God and God’s goodness in the center of his prayer.
The Pharisee felt he was justified only by his own goodness and by
comparing that goodness to the badness of others. The tax collector felt
justified only by the goodness of God and by comparing his badness to the
goodness of God. By humbling himself, the tax collector went home from
praying justified. By exalting himself, the Pharisee went home unjustified.
The tendency to feel good about ourselves by putting others down,
the tendency to compare ourselves with others in order to justify ourselves,
runs deep. Some of the greatest evil in history has come from people who
thought they were doing good. Self-righteous Christian religious fanatics were
behind the Crusades and the Inquisition, people who murdered and tortured
thousands and thousands in the name of “doing God’s will.” Some Moslem
religious fanatics, threatened by our invasive culture and foreign policies,
bomb, behead and torture innocent people in the name of “stopping the godless
crusaders.” I am reminded of a particular quote by Blaise Paschal that fits so
well here. “Men never do evil so
completely and cheerfully as when they do it from religious conviction.”
Even today, this thinking is behind ethnic cleansing, racism, religious persecution and a host of other forms of “I thank you God that I am not like those people.”
The late Father Walter Burghardt, who some called the best
Catholic preacher of his day in America, suggested that if we need to thank God
about ourselves, we should pray like this: “O God, I thank you that I am like
the rest of humankind. I thank you that, like everyone else, I too have been
shaped in your image and likeness, with a mind and heart to love you. I thank
you that, like everyone else, I, too, was embraced by the crucified arms of
your Son. I thank you that you judge me, like everyone else, not by my brains
or beauty, my skin tone or muscle power, my clothes or my money, but by the
love that is your gift to me. I thank you that, for all our thousand
differences, I am so remarkably like the people around me.”
No matter how good we think we are, we have surely fallen short!
No matter how short we have fallen, there is still some goodness in us! This
fact alone should keep us all humble in God’s eyes.
Saturday, October 25, 2025
YOU JUST CAN'T MAKE THIS STUFF UP #43
MY LIFE AS AN OLD LADY MAGNET
I have a reputation for being an "old lady magnet" - not just any "old lady," but the ones who have experienced life on a broad scale! Many have traveled. Some were professionals. A lot of them were readers. Most of of them have a wicked sense of humor. They could talk about a range of things. They never bored me, but made me laugh!
I can remember presiding at the funeral of one of my "old lady" friends. I even mentioned in her funeral homily that I had a reputation for being an "old lady magnet." As they were loading my friend's body into the hearse, an old lady I had met previously, but did not know very well, tapped me on the shoulder and said, "I hear there's an opening!" I laughed out loud because I knew exactly what she was talking about!
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Archbishop Kelly knew of my reputation of being "an old lady magnet." One day I was telling him about the death of another "old lady" friend. Without one bit of sympathy for my loss, he responded, "Well, I'm not worried! You'll have another one by Sunday!"
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There was another one, who was a regular reader of my weekly column, who made contact with me to help out on one of my missions projects. I visited a couple of times. Then we moved to "having a drink" about 4:pm. One beautiful day, we decided to have our gin and tonics on the back deck. We had covered a host of topics when the topic of sex changes came up! Someone in the neighborhood had reported such a family situation to her. We talked about the subject from several angles. At one point I said to her, "Did you ever imagine when you were a little Catholic girl that one day you would be sitting on your back deck with your priest friend, talking about sex changes and drinking cocktails?" We both looked at each other for a second and burst out into intense laughter!
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I am reminded of a joke I once heard about two old
ladies standing at the casket of an extremely wealthy old lady friend who had
just passed away. One woman whispered to the other, “How much money do you
think she left?” The other one whispered back, “All of it, I would guess!”
Thursday, October 23, 2025
"OBVIOUS AS THE NOSE ON YOUR FACE"
The bottom line of this gospel is that God comes to us especially
in the very ordinary, rather than the spectacular and dramatic, events of life.
The Scribes and Pharisees were always looking for “signs” – dramatic and
spectacular happenings and super-human personalities to “prove” that God was
active in the world. Truly, God is to be found in the ordinary events, in the
ordinary moments and in the ordinary people of this world. That is why so many
people missed Jesus when he was here on this earth. He was so ordinary, while
they were looking for something spectacular. While they were looking “out
there” and “up there,” while they were looking among the famous and the
powerful and the well-connected, God’s “sign,” Jesus, was standing right in
front of them. They missed him because he was just “too ordinary.”
Our traditional Christmas story is a perfect example. That story
is told by the evangelist, Luke. Luke wrote for the underdog, the little
people, the left-out, the losers of the world. When he tells the story, he
emphasizes the dismalness of Christ’ birth: a poor young mother delivering her
baby in a barn amid the smell of dung and donkey breath; greasy, crusty,
bumbling sheep herders; doves dropping their stuff from the rafters; the
restlessness of cows and no one to care. Luke wants his readers to know that
God comes, not just for the rich and famous and powerful, the young and
healthy, but especially for the lowest of the low, in the most desperate
of circumstances. God comes for, and loves, every human being who has ever
lived on this planet no matter how insignificant they may be in the eyes of
others.
Many of us are very much like the Jewish people of old. We want
“signs and wonders” to prove that God is alive and active in our world! Even
today, we have people running all over the world looking for those “signs and
wonders!” They look feverishly for God working in our world today in places
like Fatima, Medjugorje and Lourdes! I
am sure God has worked there, but we don’t have to go to those places to see
God working. He is working right here, right under our noses, right now in this
very place! We just have the eyes to see it!
Think about all the knee replacement surgeries, heart by-pass
surgeries and cataract surgeries that have been performed on many of you! Think of the kidney and heart transplants and
even brain surgeries that have been performed next door. Think of this
beautiful building - what it took to build and what it takes to operate it.
This Home is a miracle itself, really!
To find God working in our world, all we have to do is look around
us. We just need to look at this place, and the people in it, through the lens
of faith! Miracles are happening every day, right here and right now! All we
need do is wake up and pay attention. That’s what prayer and preaching are for
- not to wake God up to pay attention to us, but for us to wake up and pay
attention to the marvelous things that God is doing right under our noses.
As Jesus said, in another place, in this very Gospel of Luke
(10:23-24)
Tuesday, October 21, 2025
ANOTHER LIFE-CHANGING MEMORY FROM THE PAST
Sunday, October 19, 2025
PRAYER: LANGUAGE OF LOVERS, A BOND BETWEEN US AND GOD
The Gospel of Luke, that we have been reading this year, may have more of Jesus teaching on prayer than any other gospel. This gives me a chance to highlight four of his most basic messages about prayer in a nutshell.
(1) WE DON'T HAVE TO BEG AND CRAWL TO GET WHAT WE NEED FROM GOD. This week we read about a corrupt judge and a persistent widow. It is a parable of contrast. Other parables are parables of similarity. So instead of teaching us today about what God is like, he teaches us today what God is not like! By that I mean that in today's parable, Jesus teaches us that we don't have to be like a poor widow who had no power other than persistence before a corrupt judge who is used to being bribed. God doesn't need to be begged and hounded by our prayers. No, he already wants us to have what we need and is willing to give it to us at a time that is good for us. When Jesus tells us to "pray constantly," he is not telling us to recite endless prayers until we wear God down, but simply that we should never stop our intimate conversations with God who is already on our side.
(2) WE DON'T PRAY TO INFORM GOD ABOUT WHAT HE NEEDS TO DO. In the Letter of James (4:3), we are told, "You ask, but do not receive because you ask wrongly." Here, I am reminded of something I read a few years back. It is a prayer that many of us pray, in various versions, all too often. "Lord, use me! Use me in some advisory capacity!" When we pray like that, we pray as though God needs our advice, that we know best what needs to be done and that our plans are better than his!
The older I get, the more I realize that sometimes what I prayed for, and didn't get, was the best thing that ever happened to me. I prayed that I would be assigned to a nice Louisville parish as my first assignment as a priest. What I got, was an assignment to the southern Kentucky missions! As it turned out, I was happy not getting what I thought I wanted! I always prayed that my mother would outlive my father so I could spoil her. As it turned out, my mother dying first cleared the way for my being reconciled with my father - something that would not have happened if I had gotten what I imagined. The internet is filled with stories of people who had their lives ruined by winning the lottery that they thought would bring so many blessings! I could go on and on, just from personal experience!
(3) WE CAN NEVER USE PRAYER TO REMIND GOD THAT HE OWES US SOMETHING NO MATTER HOW GOOD WE HAVE BEEN. Those of us who are serious about doing what God asks of us are sometimes tempted to use the good we have done as a way of making God indebted to us. When we do that, our prayer tends to become like those of King Louis XIV of France after he suffered a serious military defeat by his troops. "God," he prayed, "how could you do this to me after all I have done for you?" When we pray like this, we pray as if we are owed something because of all our pious efforts and good works. In reality, we can never make God indebted to us. When we do that, we may pray like the Pharisee in next week’s gospel who went up to the Temple to pray. Instead of humbly comparing himself to God's goodness, he proudly compares himself to a tax collector he spots in the back row. The Pharisee brags about how good he has been, what he has done for God and how much holier he is than most other people. The tax collector, on the other hand, compared his own sinfulness to God's goodness and simply beat his breast and asked for forgiveness. No matter how much good we do, if it leaves us arrogant and prideful and self-righteous in our prayer, our prayer is bound to be ineffective.
(4) PRAYER FORMULAS AND METHODS ARE NEVER MORE IMPORTANT THAN WHAT'S IN OUR HEARTS. At times, we may dismiss the prayers of others simply because they do not use the right formula or posture. This, too, reminds me of an old story.
There was a Shiek who heard about a holy man who prayed constantly. The Shiek decided to visit this simple fisherman on his secluded island. When he arrived, the Shiek was shocked that the holy man's manner of saying prayers was all wrong. The Shiek corrected the holy man, who listened very patiently to his corrections.
As the Shiek left to go home, he was proud of the fine service he had done the poor fellow. As he looked back at the island, he was astonished to see the holy man walking on water toward the boat. When he got within hearing, the old fisherman yelled, "Excuse me, Sir, but I have forgotten some of your fine instructions on how to pray properly. Could you run them past me again?"
The Shiek could not believe his eyes when he saw the holy man walking on water. "No, no," he called out. "Forget what I taught you. Just go on praying as you are used to doing."
Truly, when it
comes to prayer, "Not as man sees does God see, because man sees the
appearance but the Lord looks into the heart." (I Samuel 16:7) In reality, prayer is
impossible without an intimacy with God and that intimacy with God is
strengthened by constant prayer. Prayer is the language of lovers - God with
us and us with God. If intimacy with
God is really there, prayer will flow freely from our hearts, we will pray as
we should and our prayer will strengthen our intimacy with God even more.